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August 2013 IVF Transfer |
So...That's T and O's first picture. Not many parents get to say that their first glimpse of their children were at the blastocyst phase. I look at this photo and remember when the nurse handed us the photograph at Dr. Thompson's office. I remember scrutinizing the photo for any visible signs of genetic defects. As if I would be able to find some indication in this photo that would allow me the possibility to predict if one or both would fail. But they didn't. The cells divided, the blastocysts grew into embryos which in turn grew into fetuses, and finally into babies.
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Our babies! |
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Top photo: O (Baby A) Bottom photo: T (Baby B) |
Oh how I love the 3D images of the babies. It was one of those moments of magic in the pregnancy. We felt like we were getting a preview of the little spirits we were going to meet in a matter of weeks. O held on to the position of Baby A throughout the entire pregnancy, sometimes by only a foot.
We went for our final ultrasound two weeks before the babies were born. We discovered that the babies had flipped and shuffled themselves into a position that perplexed the technician. At Week 36 they had gone from both being head down, ready to rock an exit through the birth canal, to a transverse position with both of their heads on my right side. Their orientation was so different from previous weeks, and so intertwined, that the technician spent several moments following spines, legs and feet, and heart beats to solve the mystery.
Following the Week 36 appointment that I started to let go of our birth plan for a natural, vaginal birth. A vaginal delivery was one of our ideals, we knew it was a remote possibility but a possibility nonetheless, so it was integrated into our dreams around bringing our twins babies into the world. The orientation of the twins was an automatic trigger for c-section. Beyond that, my belly and uterus had grown so large that my OB was concerned my contractions would not have the strength required for vaginal delivery. The confirmation of c-section brought a complex wave of emotions to the table. There was a part of me that felt relief that I had a solid date to look forward to; no more guessing, waiting, and wondering. I knew that on April 21st I would be meeting my babies. I also felt immense sadness that I was not going to deliver the babies naturally. I was afraid of the surgery and recovery. I was happy I could spend the next two weeks preparing for the surgery. I dove into working with my OB on a birth plan for our c-section that would preserve as much of our original plan as possible (e.g., immediate skin-to-skin, lowered curtain).
The day before the babies were born was Easter Sunday, one of my favorite days of the year. The weather was gorgeous, we enjoyed brunch with my parents, and planted a bush in the backyard to mark the day. I was nervous and excited with anticipation. Beth came to the house and gave me a pedicure while talking to me about the surgery, the arrival of my littles, and delivered incredible care in both friendship and homeopathics. By the time Beth left, I felt strong and capable and ready for what awaited me.
I kind of wish I could remember how I slept that last night before the babies were born. If feels like a detail I should remember. I do remember the morning of preparing to get to the hospital. We both took showers, realizing that was probably the last uninterrupted shower for a long while. We joked about when I could have my first cup of coffee after a 2 year hiatus. I daydreamed about food I could eat after the babies were born and heartburn was a thing of the past.
I was ready too early, feeling anxious about getting to the hospital on time and being READY. We drove to the hospital, ended up having to park in one of the overflow lots, and I waddled my happy self to the OB triage for check-in. It was a flurry of activity as the nurses took my vital signs. Peter was steady by my side. I could tell he was nervous and excited and also doing an amazing job of keeping me distracted. Sarah and my mom were there as well, supporting me through conversation and laughter. We met the anesthesiologist and went over our birth plan. He had a very calming presence, was supportive of our birth plan, and was happy to go over everything in detail. He said he would help to remind the surgical team about our desire to have skin-to-skin right away and said he'd ensure the curtain was low enough for us to see the babies being pulled out.
My OB came into the room to say hello and check-in and instantly tilted her head to the left and said "You're belly is listing to the left!" She did one last ultrasound just to out of curiosity to see what orientation the babies were in. And that was it. I said my goodbyes to mom and Sarah and we started to prepare to leave the room for me to head back into surgery.
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Behold the mighty belly, carrier of two full sized babies. |
The protocol for c-section is that the momma has to go into the operating room on her own while they administer the epidural. This was the part I was really scared of. I was scared to leave Pete. I was scared to have a needle poked into my spine. I was scared to lose sensation in half of my body. As I sat on the operating table, with the flurry of doctors buzzing around me I focused on one of the last things Sarah told me: to let the fear wash over me and let it go. I focused on my breath, listened to the gentle words of the anesthesiologist, and let the fear flow through and out. I still have body memory of the pain of the needle with the numbing medication. I still have whole body memory of the fear of "what if the medication doesn't work and they cut my belly." I also have memory of how much of a lifeline the words of Sarah and the anesthesiologist were for me.
After I was on the table and they had me positioned, Pete was allowed to come into the room. He took his seat on a stool near my head and we began talking and joking. The anesthesiologist that he met in the hallway was a father of twins and he gave words of encouragement. It seems like a matter of seconds before they were busily cutting my belly to bring my babies in the world. It is a very, very strange sensation to have a c-section. It literally felt like my OB was wrestling with my belly. I was aware of my body being moved and shifted and pulled. The anesthesiologist was talking gently into my ear, guiding me through the process.
That moment when my OB was holding O above the curtain so that I could see her was amazing. Breath left my body. She was beautiful perfection. I was flooded with emotion and was barely able to say her name. And then, within a minute, T was up and just as beautiful and wonderful. There is no way to describe the intense love that I instantly felt for these two tiny humans. They were pulled to the side for the nurses to quickly evaluate. Peter stood by them during that entire time, telling me about them and describing them to me. Soon they were both on my chest, our family together for the first time.
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O 6 lbs 6.8 oz and 20.5 inches long T 7 lbs 2.7 oz and 20.75 inches long |
I am grateful for my OB and the doctors that were on our team throughout the pregnancy. I am grateful for every single prayer, kind word, whoosh of support that has been sent our way from the beginning of our journey. Being a twin momma has really brought home the saying of "it takes a village" as I am certain there is no way to raise twins without support from friends, family, and even strangers.
More than anything though, I am grateful to be momma to these two beautiful souls. Our family feels whole now, our hearts bursting with love and gratitude. We are blessed with giggle, cuddle sessions in our bed in the morning, shrieks of laughter, snuggles, and sloppy kisses. We are discovering each day that it is possible to love more and more deeply than we thought was possible the day before. If all this is in just the first year, it is easy to become excited thinking about the future.
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Agnew family fun time at the zoo! (O is sporting her sun face and T is giving us his cutest smile) |
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Holy cuteness! |